What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind. Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it. Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect. Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection. Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. William Shakespeare.

martes, 10 de agosto de 2010

si quieres,puedes.

Puedes cambiar.
1.Un cuederno."Copia en él las frases que más te inspiren,haz una lista de tus objetivos psicologicos,evalúa tus progressosal final de cada día y anota todos tus logros."
2.Evitar evitar.."En la vida hay situaciones que no podemos esquivar.Podemos eviatarlas un dia,pero al cabo de un tiempo vuelven con mayor dificultad.Si tienes una fobia consiste en visualizar durante 30 minutos las peores imagenes que s ete ocurran."Normalmente se consigueque alcabo de los minutos que la persona se relaje.
3.Metete en el personage.Finge que ya lo has logrado."Cuando veas todo negro finge que las cosas van bien, como si nos predispone mentalmente para aprender nuevas habilidades."
4.Encierra el problema."Anota el problema y piensa que que ocuparas de ello más tarde,congela el problema.Seguramente el haverlo aplazado te importe menos y se haya relativizado y si no es así : acepta que la ansiedad y el miedo a un punto fijo."
5.No lo dejes para mañana."Cada vez que tengas la tentacion de dejarte llevar recuerda esas dos imagenes tan opuestas."
6.Premio."Lo importante para sentirse a gusto con una misma cuando tratas de cambiar es valorar tus avances pero cuando eres exigente se fija más en lo que queda por cambiar que en lo que ha logrado.Frustacion.

Solo con metas muy realistas romperas tu circulo vicioso.
No se consigue cuando uno se propone expectativas y metas no rales y que requieren un buen plan pero solo queriendo obtener ese fin y no pensamos en el coste que nos supone.Cuando empexamos a llevar el plan a cabo, nos sorprende la cantidad de esfuerzo que tenemos que hacer ya que se trata de cambiar hábitos y rutinas muy arraigadas que nos cuesta toda una vida establecer.

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